Merging

June 30, 2006



“What greater thing is there
for two human souls
than to feel
that they are joined
for life
to strengthen each other
in all labor,
to rest on each other
in all sorrow,
to minister to each other
in all pain,
to be one with each other
in silent,
unspeakable
memories.”


~George Eliot

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How Rude Is That?

June 29, 2006



Yesterday I was in the bank and a young man in front of me was on his cell phone. (I know it's hard to believe) He was called to the window several times before he realized it was his turn.

Throughout his transaction, the teller kept asking him questions and he didn't really pay attention to her because he was so into his conversation.
Was his conversation sooooo important that he couldn't hang up and complete a simple business transaction?

I know we live in a multitasking generation, but there is a time and place.
Do you really want your business in the street? Are people so self-absorbed that they can't function anymore because they don't want to miss a call?

It's not like everyone is a actor waiting to be called for a last minute audition.
Have manners fallen into a black hole never to be seen or heard again? What happened to common sense?

If you HAVE to be on your phone, can you be on it anywhere AWAY from me please? I have overheard way too much about your personal lives.


Overheard Cell Phone Conversations
"Yeah, hi, it's me. My implants are leaking again. I have to have them removed. Do you think I should have them replaced with bigger ones?"

"He is so hot. I met him online. I'm going to meet him next week. I totally told my parents I was going to your house for a slumber party. You have to cover for me."

"I don't care if the other girls are wearing them. You can't have a thong Emily. You're only 10 years old!"

"Dude. No way. Dude. No. Dude. Dude that's gnarly Dude."

"Hi honey, put daddy on. What? No honey I can't read you a story. Mommy's in a hurry. Can I speak to daddy? Yeah. I miss you too honey. Where's daddy? I have to ask him something? Mikey, get daddy for me sweetheart. I know I promised to read to you, but I can't over the phone. Hello? Mikey? Hello? #@&^$!"

Cell Phone Do's and Don'ts

Do be aware of where you are. If you have to answer it, make it brief and keep your voice down. We don't want to hear your drama.


Don't be loud and so self-absorbed that you walk into people because you are under the mysterious cell spell.

Do maintain distance of at least a ten feet from anyone while talking.

Don't answer your phone during a business meeting, a date or a confession (unless it's the priest calling to say he can't hear you).

Do use an earpiece. It cuts down on arm strain and lets you hear how loud you sound at the other end, so you can modulate your voice.

Don't (and this is a big one) talk in elevators, libraries, museums, restaurants, theaters, hospital waiting rooms, places of worship, auditoriums or other enclosed public spaces.

Do leave your phone at home once in a while. What did you do before cell phones?

Don't talk while shopping, banking, waiting in line or conducting other personal business. You can do these tasks faster without being distracted.


Be sure to check out the Cell Phone Commandments.


Remember Shhhhhhhhhh! Everyone is listening. Civility goes a lot further than a cell phone signal.

For those of you who are very respectful of cell phone etiquette. Thank you.

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Knock Knock

June 28, 2006


Do you ever have those days when you feel like you could accomplish anything? The days when the heavens are aligned with your will. In fact, everything is lined up perfectly.

You don't catch any red lights. You get a good parking space. You don't have to wait in any lines. Someone compliments you. You're the millionth shopper at your favorite store and you get a free massage (okay that's my fantasy.)

Let today be that day. Be free. Be alive. Be in your spirit.

"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations."
~Charles Swindoll

"
The difference between perseverance and obstinacy is that one often comes from a strong will, and the other from a strong won't."
Henry Ward Beecher

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The Death Of Dignity

June 27, 2006


Everyday I walk past a homeless man who I will call Dave. Dave sleeps in an empty garage of a company whose employees leave by 6:00 pm. and probably have no idea that he sleeps there at night.

He hangs a blue tarp from two poles for privacy, as much as he can get in a public garage. He also has a small T.V. where he often watches sports and game shows; an ice chest and a bicycle. He doesn't bother anyone and he doesn't want to be bothered.


Dave is also a clown. Sometimes during the day, I see him peddling his bike wearing white face paint, a fake red nose and that forlorn red clown smile. There is a deep melancholy in his eyes, the kind that breaks your heart.


Dave is one of the lucky ones. On the other side of town where his doppelgangers hang out, it's another story.


A barefoot woman dressed in rags twitches on a filthy sidewalk next to a bloody hypodermic needle; a man pushes his belongings in an overfilled shopping cart while pulling an old stroller with a small dog inside;
a mother and child scrounge through dumpsters collecting aluminum cans and yesterday's food.

The L.A. homeless population is proliferating by leaps and bounds. Just east of Hollywood and the million dollar film premieres, bright lights and perfect smiles lies a troublesome reality. A reality that won't go away, no matter how hard we try to sweep it under the tarmac.

It's a reality that creeps into the rearview mirror of everyone.
This bothersome black sheep bleats in the consciousness of the cityscape. It cuts across all neighborhoods, but the bulk of it is on skid row, where lives are rotting away by the second, eaten away by bad choices and wretched circumstances. The boulevard of broken dreams is scattered with skewed angels disintegrating into corpses.

Skid row makes Dante's Inferno look like paradise. It's residents come from all backgrounds, creeds and colors; former doctors, lawyers, judges, teachers, and scholars are now disheveled gods of skid row.

They wander. They stumble. They stammer. Some of them recite Shakespeare, some talk to you, some talk to themselves and hold dual conversations -- and they're all shadow boxing with phantoms of their past.

Then there is the problem of homeless dumping. Ex-cons and former mental patients dumped on skid row like dirty laundry without anyplace to go. Last month a woman on skid row was stomped to death.
If you believe in past lives then, you believe we existed before in various costumes from princes to paupers and all characters in between.

We are each at various stages of spiritual unfoldment and homelessness is no different; but it is a harsh actuality.
It's a social malady that can't be cured overnight, but you can help the ease the pain.

Once I was approached by a homeless man who asked for money. I told him that the only thing I could give him was a blessing. His eyes lit up as if he heard angels sing, as if a burden had been lifted and he said, "I need all the blessings I can get. Most people don't even talk to me. Thank you."
As he walked away, he turned back and shouted,

"God bless you!"

Blessings are contagious When I see the homeless, I quietly bless them. By blessing them, not praying for them, you acknowledge them on a Soul to Soul level. Maybe you can give them a glimmer of hope, love, understanding.

Most people will give money to the homeless just so they won't bother them. I am not saying take a stranger home with you and nurse them back to health, just bless them and help them restore the dignity that they lost along the way.


"The only kind of dignity which is genuine is that which is not diminished by the indifference of others."

~Dag Hammarskjold

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Technology Hostage

June 26, 2006


My original title to this post was 'Technology Is A Bitch', but I didn't think it was appropriate, after all, spiritual blogs can't use the word bitch. It could be mistaken for a rap lyric and then Oprah wouldn't acknowledge me and I would join the long list of rappers against her like Ice Cube, 50 Cent and Ludicris. Oh well, I can deal with that. Oprah's not my keeper.

Yesterday and part of today my ISP was down and I couldn't do ANYTHING on the internet. Ah the wonders of technology. It makes us so dependent that we are rendered cripple if anything goes wrong?

The first thing I did was check my cables, they were fine. Then I checked my phone line, fine. Then I did what I dreaded, called tech support.
Tech guys have a way of making us feel like imbeciles. I wasn't going to let that happen, not today. I was ready for their sarcastic remarks and snickering.

I called and the line was busy. Of course it was busy, everyone was trying to call at the same time.
The more I tried, the busier it became, at least that's what it felt like. I tried to log on again, hoping they had rectified it, but nothing.

Still trying to troubleshoot it myself, I changed my log on number to my alternate number. Nothing. What could I do except wait?
Three hours later, I got through. It was voice mail saying all the mail boxes for tech support were full.

I wouldn't want to have to listen to all of those angry voices on the other end. Then I thought, what if it wasn't tech support's fault. Aren't they at the whim of technology too; they just don't want us to know that?

Apart from finding another computer to use, there was nothing I could do, except surrender. My white flag was flying high. Technology had won again.

What an awful feeling to be held hostage by an invisible force that permeates our lives. Technology is morphine for the masses and we are dependent on it. I call it popnology; popular technological trends. When it works, everything is beautiful. When it fails, we go through painful withdrawals.

You can do anything and everything on the internet. Activities that used to require physical movement such as; shopping, banking, paying bills, gambling, gaming, dating, photography, going to the library, stock trading, and even stalking.

When someone comes up with a virtual doctor, you won't have to go to a doctor's office again. You will just put your finger into a device connected to the computer and that will measure your heart rate, blood pressure and your risk for diseases, especially computer viruses.

All this can be accomplished without leaving the confines of your home.
Most people will swear that they are not addicted.

I had a friend who used to say, "I am not a techo-holic. I can stop anytime I want." As I gazed across his living room, I saw a stack of remote controls. One for the plasma T.V., cable, DVD, DVR, video games, theatrical surround sound, three computer monitors, four computers, two iPods, two BlackBerrys, reclining massage chair, coming soon, a catheter, so he could sit in a catatonic state and not move for days.


He even had a remote for his remotes. No, he wasn't addicted. He was so far gone that he was beyond addiction. He needed intervention. Everything had to be taken away.

Maybe he could move in with the Amish and get back to nature? Sure his fingers would still have involuntary spasms, but it sure beat having Carpal tunnel.


Now everything is back up, but it is scary not knowing what technology is going to do next? It may have shaped our future, but not our consciousness.

Consciousness still takes a hands-on approach that is not remote controlled. It is the only thing that we program ourselves and have complete control over.

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Behold The Swelling Scene

June 25, 2006


If you could change something about yourself, what would it be?

Is it something that you WANT to change or something that HAS to be changed? No need to burden yourself with a long list.

Just pick one thing. It doesn't have to be big.
By doing that small thing, imagine how many big things you can accomplish?

You may not be able to change the world, but you can change yourself. The power is in your hands.

"Live among men as if God beheld you; speak to God as
if men were listening."
~Seneca

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Honor

June 24, 2006


Honoring your word is one of the highest virtues you can have. It is a pledge, a promise to do what you say.

Broken promises are a dime a dozen, and by honoring your word, you are honoring the very essence of your character and integrity.

"... Honour ... remains awake in us like a last lamp in a temple that has been laid to waste."

~Alfred de Vigny

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Way Of The Gods

June 23, 2006


Does culture play a big part in your spiritual beliefs? What about geography? Does where you grow up have anything to do with your religion? It could be the single most defining moment of your belief system.

We rely on that belief system to to guide us through life, but periodically some of us choose to take an alternate route and find our spiritual awakening through some other means?


I grew up in a Catholic household and I knew early on that Catholicism was rather light on spirituality and heavy on restrictions that imprisoned the body and Soul.

As a comparison, I saw my Orthodox companions frolic freely in their religion without constriction. They even received a full piece of communion bread, while I received a paper-thin communion wafer the size of a quarter. And that is how Catholicism left me; hungry and unsatisfied.

I knew there was much more food out there to gratify my spiritual appetite that would end my hunger pangs forever. But that's not why I took a hike from Catholicism; it was a mismatch from the beginning.

It is important to find the right partner in life, including the right path.

My mother gave up on tradition religion long before I did. She spent a great part of her teens in Japan where she was introduced to Shintoism. Shinto is an ancient religion of worshiping of all things in nature. Rocks, streams, plants etc. are all ruled by their respective god or "kami."

"Shin" means god and "to" means way; Shinto means Way of the Gods.
Shintoism is rooted in Japanese mythology and history. This history is handed down through primordial storytelling between generations of Japanese before Buddhism was introduced in the sixth century A.D.

49.2% of citizens are Buddhists; 44.7% are Shinto; 5.3% are part of a new religion, and 0.8% are Christian and they celebrate Christmas three times a year.

Even though my mother is not Japanese, she found a kinship with Japan; it's people, culture, religion. For her, it's a perfect fit. In some respects she thinks she is Japanese, until an authentic Japanese starts speaking their native tongue which leaves my mother scratching her head and holding her midwestern tongue.

Her book shelves were always full of books on spirituality, philosophy, psychology and religion. She proved that you don't have to be born into a certain culture to partake of its ways.

Part of the mystery is finding your way back to God. The signposts are of various sizes and shapes and often times you can't see them, but they are there.

Will you take the road less traveled or the main street? Is there more than one road to God?
You can find many short paths or one long path to define your divinity. You can even create your own path and walk at your own pace. The point is that you will know when you are on the right path because it will feel right.

If you truly seek God, put your sail up and God will provide the wind to take you where you need to go, whether it's the way of the gods or your way to God.

Even though my mother's religion can not be pinpointed, for her, God is somewhere between Japan and her Soul and is not defined by a particular religion.

And me? I'm still here living joy and divine love fueled by a desire for God consciousness; my true religion.

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Today's Agenda

June 22, 2006


Think God.
Count your blessings.

See goodness in people,
despite the forces that
want you to believe
it doesn't exist.

Live for the moment.

Meditate/Contemplate.

Walk among giants.
Always be truthful,
but not hurtful.

Let the wind blow in your hair.

Be phenomenal in your duties.
Be dutiful in your phenomenality
.
Love. Love. Love.
When you feel you've loved enough,
Love again.

THANK GOD.

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The Power Of Meditation

June 21, 2006


It's lineage is rich in spiritual history. It's designed to protect us from life's fallout and scientifically proven to assuage stress and anxiety. The power of meditation, also known as contemplation is astounding.

Meditation is not limited to monks, sages, gurus, swamis or spiritual masters of any kind. It can be done by everyone from all walks of life, even pregnant women can do it to balance the energy of the fetus.

For some, it's about searching for the meaning of life and how we relate to the universe. For others, it's about balancing emotional wobbles, making circles into straight lines and finding an inner peace. It's a private prayer to and for yourself; a personal gift where it's value increases each time you do it.

While meditation used to conjure up an image of a shirtless, bearded man sitting cross-legged in nature, there are variations along with the traditional methods, usually associated with yoga.

First, you have to find a place to relax, or refashion your thinking.
Initially, some people find it difficult to just "stop thinking." It's not that you are stopping your thoughts; you are quieting the mind like you would quiet a crying baby.

Speak in low, soft tones. Close your eyes. Breathe in slowly, hold it and let it go. Once the mind is comforted, your whole body will relax. You can also choose to gently chant a word or words that give you peace of mind.


One word that I find highly effective is HU, (Hugh) pronounced in a slow drawn out sound. It's vibratory rate is among the highest to get you in the right frame of mind.
Once you get the hang of it, you can meditate on a park bench, a bus, subway, airplane, train, or at the dentist, but please not while you're driving.

It won't matter that other people are near because you have learned to readjust your mind's attention and go to your private paradise within.

Now meditation has crossed over into the mainstream in a big way.
In Scotland, a prayer room for visitors of all religions has opened in a shopping centre to "provide moments of peace and solitude" away from the crowds.

Not limited to just meditation, at a Babson College symposium, in May 2005, businesspeople discussed the importance of integrating spirituality with business. Ben Cohen, cofounder and former CEO of Ben and Jerry’s said,

“At Ben and Jerry’s, we learned that there’s a spiritual life to businesses as there is in the lives of individuals. As you give, you receive. As you help others, you are helped in return. For people, for businesses, for nations — it’s all the same.” Cohen added, “Our actions are based on deeply held values. We’re all interconnected, and as we help others, we cannot help but help ourselves. Creating a consonance of values with employees and customers builds loyalty and even more value."

Symposium founder, Laury Hammel said the definition of “spirituality” in the context of the symposium is significant. He said it is important to leave the meaning open to people of all religious traditions, and those who are nonreligious. While some may define the term as faith in a higher power, others may consider it a set of values or a state of mind.

“We do spend a tremendous amount of time talking about our values: caring, loving, inclusive, supportive, empowering, joyful,” said Hammel. “Those kinds of values we talk about a lot because that’s why we’re here.”

Many companies have now implemented mediation rooms for their employees. It makes a better work environment and a better employee.

Maybe one day we will all meditate simultaneously and at least be connected momentarily if not eternally. Don't hesitate to mediate.

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The Queen Wears Nike

June 20, 2006




Summer is here and many people are going on vacation to relax, have fun, be tourists and bask in the glow of a new place. There is another reason to vacation though; to get out of your own backyard and see how other folks live.

I often speak of London because I had an extended vacation there, five years ago. It's a place where we have exported Madonna, and two Gwens; Paltrow and Stefani, and imported Simon Cowell, Gordon Ramsay and television nannies.


There are differences between Los Angeles and London. London is fascinating. For a bustling city, it still has a small town feel. Cars in London are right-hand drive but their driving isn't right -- it's left. It doesn't rain everyday in London, nor is it foggy.


Brits are a friendly bunch who tell it like it is, unlike Angelenos who tell you how it will never be.
I won't tell you about the tourist stuff that you can find anywhere, just things I found interesting.

There is a pub on almost every corner or within close proximity to one another. They still have phone booths, good luck finding any pay phone here, much less a phone booth?
Their cell phones are six months ahead of ours. They don't get charged for incoming cell phone calls, only Nextel does it here.

They have cars we will never see in America, built especially for the European market. They have special parking spaces for mothers with small children, much like our handicapped spaces, near store entrances.
Their supermarket cashiers get to sit on stools, not stand like they do here.

Their double decker is a bus, our double decker can make us the size of a bus.
Two staples in a Brit household are the soaps, Coronation Street and East Enders. Both come with a myriad of bizarre story lines that reflect a realistic and captivating slice of life.

When the flag flies at Buckingham Palace, the Queen is home, just not taking MY calls. It's okay, she's probably reading my latest posts, after all, she's one of my biggest fans Luv!
The only house in England that the Queen may not enter is The House of Commons, as she is not a commoner. She is also the only person in England who does not need a license plate on her vehicle.

I just wanted to see her hat collection. Rumor has it that she has over 1,000 hats. Is the crown an official hat? One evening I was walking past Buckingham Palace, hoping to get a glimpse at the Queens Guard, who are real soldiers, all part of the Household Division who have guarded the Sovereign and the Royal Palaces since 1660.

They work hard work at standing still. Here, they could work in the post office. As I passed the gate, I saw someone jogging with an entourage. After doing a double-take, I noticed it was the Queen. I shouted, "Liz?" "Liz, it's me, Alexys?"

She turned around, but the only thing that I accomplished was to make her run faster -- away from me. All I saw were her Nike's, kicking up dust. And yes, she wore the crown.


Okay, that last part didn't really happen, but I wanted to give you a Hollywood ending. That's what Los Angeles is famous for; it's make believe. We've made a whole business on it. You may have even heard of Hollywood?

Seriously, learning about new cultures and understanding our differences bring us together as people. Even if you can't afford to vacation, you can always travel to a foreign land via the internet. Your adventure awaits. Welcome to Summer.

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Pass It On

June 19, 2006


If we had a choice before we were born to live in the world as we know it, would we still allow ourselves to be born? Would we rescind our spiritual contracts? If we knew what we would be getting into, many of us would choose not to come into existence.

What would we do if we weren't born? Wander aimlessly in the spiritual worlds? It's unfathomable isn't it? You can't imagine what the world would be like if you weren't born? I can't either. I am glad you are here.

We were all born for a reason. To find our purpose. Whether it is discovering something about yourself or someone else, no purpose is too small. What can you add to your life? What will you take away? Will your passion lead you to your destiny? Will it lay abandoned before it has a chance to exist?

One purpose we all share is hope. When we are tagged and sent into the wilderness by God, we look for hope. The wilderness is dark, dangerous and sometimes lonely, but if we have hope that we will get through it, that will keep us going.


Once we learn to have hope, we can give it away. The more we give away, the more we have. Today's task is simple. Give someone hope and they will pass it on.

"I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much."
~Mother Teresa

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Embrace Your Sunrise

June 18, 2006



Today is the beginning.
A new day.
A new hour.
A new minute.
A new second.
A new time and space.
Yesterday is gone.
Tomorrow is a day away
and soon will be yesterday.

Embrace your sunrise.
Resolve to live for today,
all of it.
God has blessed you with
86,400 seconds today.
What are you
going to do with them?

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Cooperation

June 17, 2006


"Think of yourself as an incandescent power, illuminated and perhaps forever talked to by God and his messengers."
~Brenda Ueland

"Whatever God's dream about man may be, it seems certain it cannot come true unless man cooperates."
~Stella Terrill Mann

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Descendants Of Heaven

June 16, 2006

In one episode of Malcolm In The Middle, Reese, the bully, turns over a new leaf and becomes born again. He kisses goodbye all of his wicked ways and his brother Dewey; the one he's been terrorizing since birth.

Reese then straps himself into a chair with white helium balloons tied to the back of it. Slowly he ascends to the brightest heaven of invention, singing Amazing Grace, floating through the clouds, until he gets too close to the sun and crashes back to earth through the church plate glass window.


Many people think if they lead a certain life that they will get heaven as a prize. They even go to church on Sunday and praise God, only to curse God during the week.

Church is not a refuge where wickedness is absolved. A person doesn't magically change as they walk in and God knows they don't change as they walk out.


When the ego is the pilot and we get too far off the ground, God masterfully knocks us back to earth.

Heaven is a state of mind that has to be won daily. It's not bound to a particular place or thing. Heaven is communicating with God on a level so pure that you become the God consciousness and everything you do in that state is of heaven.

Achieving heaven is a lot of responsibility where only the strong survive. With that responsibility comes joy and a completeness in your Soul that you are striving for something greater than yourself. You are undertaking the right to feel heaven in your life.

Heaven is not in the clouds, it is not a foreign land outside of yourself. It is right here, right now inside of you. You can access it anytime.

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Kiss The Sky

June 15, 2006


"For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation."

"Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky."


~Rainer Maria Rilke

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The Joy Of Flying

June 14, 2006


I just watched the Wim Wenders film, Wings Of Desire. I had always heard that it was an extraordinary film. I consider myself a film aesthete. I don't like the overly hyped films that critics love.

My adventure with film is usually fresh, like a newborn experiencing something for the first time with unbridled curiosity.

I believe that everyone should watch a film without preconceived notions. That way you develop your true feelings about it without feeling forced to agree with a critic who has already robbed you of your opinion.

I will give you a petite review hoping not to color your opinion, only to lightly shade my impression. Reserve the right to your own opinion.

The film is essentially about a stoical angel walking around Berlin, Germany eavesdropping on the conversations of humanity. He reminisces about the wonderment of childhood and how it becomes adulterated as people grow older.

There is also a contrived story about the angel falling in love with a trapeze artist. Based on the poetry of Rainer Maria Rilke, the fluidity of the cinematography is absolutely mesmerizing.

It is truly poetry in motion, shot in black and white with sporadic splashes of color.
It feels like you are in flight yourself. Floating weightlessly. Effortlessly. One with the sky. Out of body. Just Soul. Soaring. Breathlessly.

The underlying message was that the angel desired human love which negates everything we perceive about angels. Aren't they beyond human love? Do they even have a desire for it? Unless this angel was a beginner and hadn't really transformed his human characteristics to his godly characteristics yet?

That's like going backwards? It's like going through the most grueling obstacle course, barely making it, and then going back to the beginning. Why?


One character that jarred with the whole film was Peter Falk's character. After seeing him, you think to yourself, why is Columbo in Germany? Thereafter, never the twain shall meet. Two thoughts constantly fought each other. Columbo? Angel? What?


We all want to be loved. We beg to be loved. We cry to be loved. We die to be loved. Love must start in the core of our beings and can't not be reliant upon outside sources.
When we merge with other beings, they enhance what we already feel; what we already know.

Love develops our wings so we can soar. Our only want is to love in the way God has shown us. God teaches us how to fly. Our wings of desire determine how high?

"When the child was a child, it was the time of these questions. Why am I me, and why not you? Why am I here, and why not there? When did time begin, and where does space end? Isn't life under the sun just a dream? Isn't what I see, hear, and smell just the mirage of a world before the world? Does evil actually exist, and are there people who are really evil? How can it be that I, who am I, wasn't before I was, and that sometime I, the one I am, no longer will be the one I am?"

Excerpt from Wings Of Desire

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A New Spin

June 13, 2006


Imagine going to the doctor and being diagnosed with cancer? A million thoughts race through your mind. Pieces of your life that are incomplete, pieces yet to begin, pieces shattered.

It happened to media mogul David Geffen. Over twenty five years ago, his doctor gave him the grave news. He had a malignant tumor and he didn't have much time left to live.

Geffen sold his very successful record company and traveled the world. He did things he really wanted to do. Life took on a deeper meaning and his experiences affected him deeply.

Imagine how that makes a person feel, especially when they feel that they haven't accomplished what they want?

When Geffen returned home and went back to his doctor for a checkup, he found out something just as shocking as his initial visit -- he had been misdiagnosed!

A million more thoughts scurried through his overwrought mind. Shock. Disbelief. Overjoy. He had been to the mountain top. He was on the verge of life and death -- literally.

Being on the verge can change a person. It can accelerate life as they try to cram every experience into a time capsule. While Geffen may have once been grieving for a life half lived, a whole new world of appreciation opened up after he got a clean bill of health.

A person's senses are more in tune with life's pulse. Time becomes a major concern. Not the time of day, the time of life. Food tastes better. Colors are much brighter and crisper. Words resound. Relationships are cultivated. Truth is spoken.

People are either in your life or out? You don't have time for the drama. Life is measured by the spoonful. Love is the center of your being.
The experience probably altered Geffen's consciousness as it would anyone's.

Over twenty five years later, he has since regrouped and is currently one third of DreamWorks, SKG.
Was it the diagnosis or the misdiagnosis that gave Geffen another spin on life? Whichever or whatever it was, Geffen is not likely to ever forget his epiphany.

It was probably the guiding force to his toughest decisions and an indication of a life not lived in fear, but one lived in love.

"You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love."

~Henry Drummond

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Coping With Loss

June 12, 2006

I just read an article in Parade Magazine. An interview with Keanu Reeves by Dotson Rader.

The bold pull quote that starts the article reads,

"I Don't Want To Flee From Life."


This statement speaks volumes. When some people experience loss, their first inclination may be to flee from the pain; which can make it worse.

We can run, but we can't hide.
Fleeing from life to avoid discomfort just causes an avalanche effect that will flatten us in flight. Looking at Keanu's picture, I could sense that loss has ripped his Soul and understandably so.

His daughter was stillborn in 1999 and two years later, the child's mother was killed in a car accident. Two huge blows that could knock out the best of us.


Because we are each different, loss affects us differently. Some of us retreat from the world, some of us go on as if nothing has happened, but we can't cheat ourselves out of grieving.


Our emotional body needs the exercise. It is required to get from point A to point B, otherwise we will send our coping skills to an early retirement with nothing to live on and nothing to live for.

The avalanche will keep getting bigger and our spirits will be crippled until we immerse ourselves into the process of grieving.
If you feel that you can't cope, ask for help? God is all ears.

Keanu Reeves made some very poignant observations on his own grief. Hopefully, it will help you in grieving with your loss.

"I think after loss, life requires an act of reclaiming. Grief changes shape, but it never ends. People have a misconception that you can deal with it and say 'It's gone, and I'm better.' They're wrong. When the people you love are gone, you're alone. I miss being a part of their lives. All you can do is hope that grief will be transformed and, instead of feeling pain and confusion, you will be together again in memory and that there will be solace and pleasure there, not just loss. Much of my appreciation of life has come through loss."

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Light The Way

June 11, 2006


There are many people out there fumbling in the dark, trying to find their way home. If you are one of them, look for your light.

There are many people out there with light. If you are one of them, look for your tunnel.


Light someone's way through courtesy, kindness, compassion and tenderness. The more you use your light, the more light you are given.

Be the light at end of the someone's tunnel and make the way home together.

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Friendship

June 10, 2006



Today, celebrate friendship.

A friend is
someone
who knows
the song
in your heart
and sings it
back to you
when you have
forgotten the
words.

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Stress Free

June 9, 2006


It's Friday. Time to leave your troubles and stress at work. Don't let them ruin your weekend.

Don't carry them out the door with you. Drop them. Leave them. Discard them on the way out.


By the time you return on Monday, you may forget all about them.
Now go and enjoy yourself.

The tea kettle sings, even when it is up to its neck in hot water.

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Wake Your Dream

June 8, 2006


Yesterday on the radio, the disc jockey asked listeners to call in and let him know if they were happy in their jobs? The overwhelming response was, "NO!"

Many listeners called in and said that they followed their parents dreams, not their own dreams. They had every kind of degree imaginable, but they were utterly miserable in their jobs. Although they made decent salaries, their Souls were in quicksand.

I could hear the stress in their voices as they lamented about living on the boulevard of broken dreams. Their spirits were not only broken, but painfully lacerated.

They recommended that everyone follow their dreams and felt that it was too late for them. It's never too late to start fresh. Mentally we may think that we are too old, undereducated, overeducated, too this or too that, but that's not always the case. It's never too late.

When we are young and just starting to discover our ambition, our dreams seem attainable. There are three ingredients needed in pursuing your dreams; discipline, emotional support, and financial support; the third of which is usually lacking.

Being young, we think everything will fall into place just because we want it; we don't think of everything else involved. There is no dream factory where you can buy one, you have to make it yourself.

On the path to our dreams, something unexpected happens -- life. Relationships, marriages, children, jobs and unforeseen events that cause us to abandon our dreams -- but they never die.

Dreams sit quietly in the background and watch your misery consume you, which really consumes them, because they still love you. Yes, your dreams love you too. They want you to be happy.

An ex-police officer wasn't happy being an officer, so after 12 years on the force, he quit. He always wanted to write a screenplay. He bought a few books and supplied his own will and began to write. He had many naysayers around him saying he could never do it?

Three months later he had completed a script. He asked a friend to help finance it, then hired a crew and now he has a finished film ready to screen in theaters.

Even DreamWorks Studios had a rocky start. They couldn't secure the right location to build their studio and had to overcome many setbacks, but now they are a major player in the film industry.

Are you ready to pursue your dreams? It may be hard, or it may be easier than you think? Use the skills you already have. Maybe the years you spent working on someone else's dream can be applied to your dream?

You will never know what you can accomplish if you don't try?
You may have an advantage? Use your personal network of friends, and colleagues to help you. This is the sticky part because there are many people who don't want you to accomplish your dreams, that's human nature.

Part of the challenge is figuring out a way to make it work? The most important aspect is support. Assemble a dream team. People who love and support you and want you to achieve your dreams. You may know someone who holds a piece of your dream and someone else who holds another piece?

You have to piece them together.
Meet other people who are in the field of your dreams. It's time to be a success story in your own dream factory.

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A Grateful Heart

June 7, 2006

I am grateful for the new day God has given me.

I am grateful for the old day God has taken from me.

I am grateful for the love that fills my heart.

I am grateful for the peace that fills my
Soul.


I am grateful that I can sleep at night.

I am grateful for the dream that never sleeps.

I am grateful for learning.

I am grateful for knowing.

I am grateful for being.

I am grateful that moments illuminate me.

I am grateful for believing.

I am grateful that my Soul exist because God loves it.

I am grateful for the smiles in my life.

I am grateful for my loyal readers.

I am grateful that my health is my wealth.

I am grateful that I have experienced unconditional love.

I am grateful that birds still sing outside my window.

I am grateful for the storms.

I am grateful that I am on the right path.

I am grateful that Blogger is back up after 6 hours.

I am grateful that I am grateful.

What are you grateful for?

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Six-nificance

June 6, 2006


Today's date will cause many people to go on about the infamous "666", but I promise not to go there. In honor of my 166th post (yesterday) on this Sixth day of the Sixth month in 2006, I am celebrating interesting facts about the number Six.

Following is my Six List or Six-tease?



Six is like a cocktail; after five and before seven.

If twelve is the zenith then Six is the nadir.

If you like nursery rhymes, you can Sing A Song of Sixpence.

If you like winsome love songs, you can listen to Sixpence None The Richer sing, Kiss Me."

You could strum on your Six string guitar and sing your own song.

If you were in the Wild West, you'd probably have a Six shooter.

There are Six contestants on Fear Factor; where you can watch creepy crawlers being devoured Six different times.

To win the jackpot in California's Super Lotto, you have to get all Six winning numbers.

If you've been married Six years, you have one more year to reverse the impending seven year itch.

Six is the highest number on a single die.

Some cars and bikes have Six speeds.

Six months is half a year. Is the year half empty or half full?

Six feet is the ideal height of a man who is under Six feet, but not Six feet under.

Since April 2006, there are 163 sets of Sextuplets in the world.

You can still get your kicks on Route 66.

There is a difference between drinking a Six pack and HAVING a Six pack, but it is a fact that too many Six packs will ruin your Six pack.

We all have a Sixth sense we're free to explore.

You don't have to believe in Six degrees of separation to believe that we ARE all connected.

On May 23, 2006, at a charity event in Doha, Qatar, a Qatari bidder paid $2.75 million for the mobile phone number 666-6666.

See, I told you I wouldn't mention "666."

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Love Birds

June 5, 2006


Yesterday while I was washing the dishes, I gazed out of the kitchen window and observed two birds. The same two feathered creatures that make themselves at home on the neighbors protruding air conditioner.

They were enjoying the warm day by being very affectionate towards each other. The male whispered sweet nothings in the female's ear. She would shyly giggle and bow her head.

He put his wing around her. She looked deeply into his eyes as if to say, "I feel the same way." Then they kissed passionately, oblivious to the world that was watching.


It was reminiscent of the classic Robert Doisneau photograph, 'The Kiss On The Sidewalk.' It also reminded me of the love in the universe and how it affects us all, including the animal kingdom.

Were they just two Souls in bird bodies watching the play of life unfold? They were so self-contained in their love that nothing else mattered. The two love birds snuggled until I finished the dishes. It was so sweet.

Do birds go through the same emotions as humans? Do they fall in love? Do they worry about pettiness and insignificant issues? Are they in touch with their spirit? What do they think of us when they watch us?

Then out of nowhere, another male bird intruded the love nest. He started sniffing around the female. Fending off the intruder, the first love bird uttered something to his female in birdspeak and she quickly flew to safety.

It was a showdown; a duel. I expected each bird to stand back to back and walk ten paces, but it didn't happened like that? The enemy, Lex Luthor pushed the chivalrous Superman and it was a blur after that.

All I saw were feathers flying, so much that I had to close the window. Lex Luthor wanted Lois Lane and Superman wasn't having any of it. I heard the blows and frantic flapping, but I couldn't see who was winning?

When the feathers cleared, Superman shoved Lex Luthor off of the air conditioner, and Lex was barely able to fly away. Superman was the winner in this round, but Lex was probably lurking in a tree somewhere plotting revenge.

As Superman brushed himself off, Lois flew back into his feathers. She helped him clean up and they went back to being in love again. She thanked him with a kiss.

They both glanced at me, as if to say, "Do you mind?"


Yes, real love is worth fighting for.

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It's All Good

June 4, 2006


This is the time when
I usually quote someone
to let you reflect on it,
but today I will just
leave you with
two words.
'Be Good.'

Be good to everyone who has
ever been good to you.
Take a moment to appreciate
the love in your life.


Have a good day.

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A Little Humor

June 3, 2006



A minister parked his car in a no-parking zone in a large city because he was short of time and couldn't find a space with a meter.

Then he put a note under the windshield wiper that read:
"I have circled the block 10 times. If I don't park here, I'll miss my appointment. Forgive us our trespasses."

When he returned, he found a citation from a police officer along with this note.
"I've circled this block for 10 years. If I don't give you a ticket, I'll lose my job. Lead Us Not Into Temptation."

“Good humor is one of the preservatives of our peace and tranquility”

~Thomas Jefferson

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Spiritual Anchors

June 2, 2006


Two weeks ago, my friend Brandon found out that his mother has breast cancer. She will have to have one of her breasts removed.

At the time, a thousand thoughts raced through my mind. Probably the same thoughts that raced through his mind.
Every time I started to say something, it would change before I got a chance to say it?

In my mind, this word flurry went on forever, but in reality, only a couple of seconds. I wanted to say the right thing, but the only words that managed to come from my mouth were, "Im sorry."

"Come on, you can do better than that", I said to myself. You can say anything, not just, "I'm sorry."

The more I tried to say something else, the more I couldn't.
I was being edited by a force beyond my speech control. Maybe Brandon wouldn't been able to hear anything else? Maybe it would have been too much? Maybe it wasn't the right time?

Since I couldn't say anything, I took his hand into both of my hands. I closed my eyes and blessed him. Maybe what I was trying to say prior was transferred through my hands? Brandon looked at me and said, "Thanks for being here for me."

I first met his mother and father when he invited me over for Christmas dinner one year. Along with traditional turkey and roast beef, she made a feast of Greek food, including many mouthwatering delights that I can't spell in English without sounding illiterate.


From then on, she treated me like a member of the family, with kindness, generosity and love. I can still hear the way she called me, "dah-ling," in her Greek accent.

To witness the mutual respect Brandon has for his parents and they for him is beautiful.
His mother had surgery last week and I am glad to report that it was successful for the most part.

She has to take medication for the rest of her life which makes her very tired quickly, but she's still alive.


Tears of joy streamed down Brandon's face. Tears of relief. Tears of love. Tears of faith. Tears of strength.


It's so important to have spiritual anchors. Someone you can go to when you are feeling down. Someone who can offer you solace. You can be a spiritual anchor just by being there for someone.

Even when you can't quite find the words, your presence speaks volumes through the healing power of love.

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Stay Alive

June 1, 2006


Let's hear it for My Daily Insights. They have delivered another spiritual refreshment. This goes down like a cool drink on a hot summer day.

"Man can Live for about forty days without food, and about three days without water, about eight minutes without air ... but only For one second without Hope."
~Hal Lindsey

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