The Bat Lady's Light
December 5, 2007

I can’t believe it. Yesterday after my walk, I witnessed a miracle. The kind of miracle not many people witness.
Angels sang, lightning flashed, the earth may have even moved.
A light was shining in the darkness. A light that I had never seen before. A light that had never shone before.
A light that had awakened blackness out of a deep sleep. A light from the the bat lady’s window.
After seven months of living in the dark, she actually turned her lights on. Seven months of pitch blackness.
Seven months of fumbling in the dark through scotopia. Seven months of stagnation had finally come to an end.
I don’t know what event took place to cause her to turn the lights on, but it was a miracle.
After last week’s post on how she lived in the dark,
a metamorphosis must have taken place.
She must have somehow heard my thoughts through the ethers or heard about the post through her incredible hearing facility.
I am still in shock. The reason she has turned on the lights is because she got curtains. Well sort of.
She got curtains that oddly enough only block the middle of her windows.
So if people look in, they will see her with the middle part of her body pixled out, like it is censored. In other words, you can see her head and her legs as strange as that sounds.
Maybe the second phase of her epiphany will be to get full length curtains. The wise and wonderful Max thought that perhaps my neighbor (the bat lady) was depressed.
I hadn’t thought of that. She could have very well been depressed, although she didn’t display any outward signs.
Max’s thought had me intrigued so I waited for the opportunity to “run into” the bat lady.
I saw her car pulling in the driveway and I “pretended” to get something from the car when I just “happened” to see her.
“Hello neighbor,” I say. “Hi Alexys,” she smiles. Before I could get another word out, she enthuses, “Did you see my new curtains?”
“You finally got curtains,” I say, acting surprised. She points to her window and says, “Look.” She was so excited that she couldn’t contain herself.
Then out of the blue she says, “I don’t have any motivation. I just don’t like to do anything I don’t have to do. My mother is coming to help me decorate my house."
I thought to myself, how sad it is not to have any motivation or reason to get up in the morning. We need motivation to make us move.Motivation helps us face the day with a positive attitude. It keeps our head upright. Elevates our consciousness.
Then I remembered some prior conversations with her. She broke up with her boyfriend a year ago and she is having a hard time getting over it.
He told her that she had no motivation. When he moved back to Germany, it really hit her hard.
She is already a nurse, but now she want to become a nurse practitioner (almost like a doctor.) All she talks about is how she would like to move to Germany one day and show him how she’s changed. They say, “Success is the best revenge.”
In essence he did her a favor by telling her what seemed to be negative at the time, but was really positive.
I guess the lesson here is not to judge a bat by its cover. What I saw as being a bat was really an adjustment period. She had shut her heart down and left all the lights off.
When I spoke to her, I saw how the light shone in her eyes when she spoke of the imminent arrival of her mother.
I saw how living alone probably caused her loneliness. I sensed how she must have felt in the dark. How she must have craved light. How her own internal light was flickering, almost going out. I wanted to help her realize her light and to re-light it.
I told her that ironically her curtains made her place look brighter. They reflected her internal light. She smiles and says, “I never thought of it like that.”
She went on to say, “When my mother gets here, we’re going to paint, get paintings, and just have fun decorating together.”
Your house reflects who you are. It reflects your light. I believe that if we ignite the light in someone else, they in turn will ignite it in someone else. Maybe we really can make a difference?
I think she (or her ex) may have misdiagnosed herself as having no motivation, when all she had was temporary motivation; which just has to be re-channeled into motivation.
Motivation comes from being happy, feeling good about your life and having hope for your future.
It doesn’t hurt us to be good neighbors, good friends, companions, coworkers, good people.
Each year millions of people die of loneliness. When we feel lonely, we inadvertently shut down own body, which in turn shuts down our immune system and makes us susceptible to diseases.
We have to watch out for each other, talk to each other, touch each other, be the light for each other; especially during the holiday season.
Light gets through the smallest openings; through doors, blinds, fog, darkness, and hearts.
Thanks Max for helping me see another dimension to the story. Thanks for being the eyes in the dark. And thank you all for being my light.


18 comments:
Dear Alexys,
I was reading this eagerly, nodding my head at your incredible wisdom...
when i came to the line... "Dont judge a bat by its cover"
And i was gone... on the floor, in fits of laughter,
You are so wonderful my friend. The light lives in you, looks out from your eyes to smile on the world.
You gave her a glimpse of the light inside her also - a light that even strangely placed curtains and bat like behaviour cannot repress or hold back.
Love grows in your light my friend.
You have motivated me this bright morning to go and give some of my own away ;) ;)
The light of love
to you,
Maithri
You have a nice way of looking at it, Alexys.
When she told you 'I just don't like to do anything I don't have to do. My mother is coming..." I thought her boyfriend was right...
And she wants to move back to Germany to show him how she has changed ???
No, I think she was depressed and lonely over the break-up - and thse 'changes' don't run very deep. YET.
Maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel for her...
Our homes do we reflect who we are... It'll be interesting to see what she chooses. It would be nice if her turning on the light was symbolic for her desire now for light everywhere in her environment.
Your reaching out to her was certainly a good thing...
She's lucky to have you as a neighbor - at any time of the year !
Maithri,
Thank you for your generous words and loving heart. You bring a smile to my face.
One thing I realized was that bats need the light of love too. They need to fly high with smiles on their little faces. There is much satisfaction in soaring.
Today, I want you to soar my darling. Let the tenderness of your heart touch the world.
Let there be light. Where there is light, there is love.
I was so pleased to hear you went out to speak to her. Good on you!
That was a lovely post. I wish I had some magical winterwonderland "thang" for a change
Alexys,
Wow!!!!! She finally came out of the dark!!!!
"Maybe the second phase of her epiphany will be to get full lenghth curtains" - LOL LOL LOL LOL Alexys, you rock LOL LOL *nodding*.
"wise and wonderful" - why, thank you; adorable Alexys *bowing*! :).
I am so glad that you went up to her :). By your words she really looked more lighter (spiritually speaking), didn't she? It is a terrible thing to break-up with someone; however it may bring positive things...
Well, at least she wasn't depressed, which is far much worse than a heartbreak *nodding*.
Ah, lack of motivation is a terrible thing; but ta least she is already looking forward to having fun with her mom :)...is there anything sweeter than that?
Motivation is the my mom's middle name lol: the things she used to do to motivate us lol *nodding*! She raised Junior Motivations LOL LOL.
Moving on to serious matter:
There's nothing sadder than lonelines. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have my family (I detest being alone)...
I am glad former "bat" has a mom who is coming to be with her :).
Don't thank me, Alexys; I am just glad that she is all right now :).
Cheers
P.S: I almost forgot that I came to award you: http://maxcouti.blogspot.com/2007/12/more-awards.html. And I won't be receiving the follow-up comment for Blogger is crazy *nodding*.
Hi Annie,
The moving to Germany was shocking. She is American and thinks that life will be different in Germany. Maybe she is running away from herself?
Mayber her mother can help to kick up her motivation.
I hope her light continues to stay on and hopefully she won't choose black curtains. (I once had a roommate who wanted black curtains.)
"She's lucky to have you as a neighbor - at any time of the year!"
That is so sweet. Thank you Annie.
GS,
I was so pleased that she was open. Some people would rather stay in their black cloud and not let anyone in.
Gleds,
I am sending you some magical wonderland "kind of thang" now. Can you feel it? Can you?
Max,
She came out. I hope she will get full length curtains just becuae it doesn't look complete yet. Maybe I have to talk to her mother.
She did seem a little lighter than usual.
People are affected differently by break-ups. Hopefully she can turn this one into the Pheonix rising form the ashes.
Some mothers are the ultimate motivators.
Max, I will always thank you. And thanks for the award.
Hopefully Blogger is sorting itself out now. We will see.
Alexys,
Blogger sorted things out (thank God lol): now I am back in the game lol :).
You are welcome *bowing*!
True: some mothers are the ultimate motivators, indeed :)!
"Hopefully she can turn this one into the Pheonix rising form the ashes." - Amen :).
She will get full length curtains...however, try and have a convo with her mom (extra support is always good) :)!
Cheers
Max,
Amen my sista!
Cheers.
Alexys,
Have a blessed weekend, my sista :)!
Cheers
Max,
You too my dear. May the blessings be.
That's a lovely post.So true. She still could be a bat though, so hides her wings behind half curtains. :)
Uber,
You really think so? You could be on to something. Hmmmmm?
Now I won't be able to sleep.
Oh, I'm glad things got better for her...! and yes, you can do lots as a good neighbour *sad to say I'm not one myself...*
Eve,
I can't believe that someone as sweet and intelligent as your goodself is not a good neighbor. How can you not be? Well, unless you live among a pack of wild dogs or rats????????????
Things do take an upturn if we stick around long enough to see the results.
I am sure that you are a good neighbor. Perhaps you haven't had the opportunity to prove yourself yet.
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